Hi Teresa.
Maybe I wasn't clear. I didn't mean to suggest that it "wasn't a big deal" to a wife. I thought that was implicit in what I said to start with: that it is a major step from "just wearing panties" hidden under male clothing to wearing skirts and blouses and appearing outwardly female. Rather, what I was suggesting was that Jannis should present her wishes "lightly," as if it wasn't a big deal to her either way. That gives her wife the feeling that there's "no pressure," it's not a "demand" Jannis is placing on her. It's just an idea she's being "sounded out" about, to which she's free to say Yes or No without conflict or lasting tension. If she says Yes, then that's great, but if she says No, she was going to say it (or think it) anyway. So why leave her feeling awkward for refusing something that seemed like a "big deal" to Jannis? That's all. I hope this makes sense.
