Kimberly A,
For what it's worth, here's a thought that I haven't noticed yet.
Why not add a line to your POF profile that reads something like "Not hung up on traditional male/female roles"?
It both hints at what you're trying to say without "dropping the bomb" - AND it adds an element of mystery to your persona.
It would seem that the uptight and unaccepting types would shy away, but the more adventurous or open ones might - just might - think to themselves "Hmmm, I wonder..." and respond.
You could then start getting to know each other a bit - perhaps even holding the reveal until 2-3 dates in. That way you'll both know if there's any interest in taking things a bit further.
But please - PLEASE, do it before the "L" word starts getting used!
