I'm not sure I see the value in lecturing a person over what it means to "be a woman." Mainly because, ummm, we are not women. Different people have different motivations for dressing, or even for wanting to transition at some point, as well as different ways of expressing their gender identity. Ultimately, it's all inside our minds and hearts.
There are probably a billion oppressed cisgender women living in poverty across the world right now, working themselves to death to survive, to raise their families, who would laugh hysterically at our desire to "pass" or look femme. Younger folks would file this under "first world problems."
