It is possible you might be overthinking it.
The things you listed are legitimate items of etiquette, but I'm not sure even women are so concerned with them nowadays. In fact, I believe some women feel some of these "rituals of chivalry" are somewhat antiquated and even a bit patronizing, charming though they may be. I mean, to some, we're gravitating dangerously toward "I'll have the steak, she'll have the salad" territory.
Most of the things said here will probably fly out the window once you're on the actual date, so my suggestion is that you just be yourself (your fem self) and have a good time.
And no kissing on the first date!
