I would ask her to join you at therapy because she needs it.
I think she is more worried about what people will think of her being married to a CDer if it ever gets out.
The wanting to know where you are at all times shows she has lost trust in you.
My first ex acted the same way when she had started cheating on me. Had to know my every move but as I found out it was so she didn't get caught sleeping with my friends and best friend and other guys. And in our bed.
I'm not saying yours is doing that but if something else is happening you will be the last to know.
We had been married 15 years btw.
