AmyH, you told your wife it was nothing sexual, but a trip to your TG blog tells a different story, so were you really honest in your conversations with her?
The way you describe your dressing, it seems a very compulsive thing, I don't see how you can promise to not do it again.
As for borrowing intimate stuff from your wife, I'll just say that my coming out would have much less traumatized my wife if I hadn't done the same.
