To Pass or Not To Pass

[Rachel Anne]

Hi Tricia,

Agree. Some see it as a binary proposition, but it isn't. As Marion pointed out, people come in all shapes and sizes, and those ranges overlap with one another. The trick is to push yourself as far into one range as you can while minimizing the part that pulls you into the other and hope the average works to your advantage.

I was very skeptical about the voice part. First, I had zero innate talent for it, which is really disappointing if you watch a few videos and are frustrated by how easy other people seem to make it. Some people just have a natural talent. Second, I had the thought process that if you just don't say anything, then there's not a problem. The problem stems, I think, is that it is a confidence issue. There's always some random chance a passerby will engage, and maybe sub-consciously we work to avoid any possibilities of that, and it may show in our body language. So I made it a priority. The key for me was, ironically enough, brute force. I just practiced every day, days on end, and weeks turned into months and months and months. And I had to keep it up.

On body shape we are in complete agreement, but I don't think it takes very much. Just something to break up the lines. I'm a small person, weak shoulders and I keep my weight in check. In male mode, I don't look good at all because of it (think "scrawny", and that's a whole other tale of woe), but while fem mode looks better because I'm more solidly in that range, I'm a bean pole which would still be off unless I add something. My every day routine includes a Rago waist nipper (they last forever!), and a pair of small hip pads made for GGs ("Sculptress", made by Dresstech, I think, and also well made). I have a pair of Ameona forms that I use that are "average" for a GG of my height. Between the three, it breaks up my lines just enough.

I started out as a nervous wreck, but now I'm loving it as I got my look tuned. Some things I can't wear, anything low cut or super tight fitting, but by an large, I can toss an outfit together without much trouble, grab my stuff and be on my way.