Before I transitioned, and several years afterward, I wanted a convincing voice. I tried all the tricks (they should be numbered for quick reference). Finally, I enrolled for Speech Therapy at the University of Houston, Speech Pathology Department. I even had to get medical clearance from two ENT?s. After about a year of exhausting sessions I finally decided that it was not worth it. Just as some people can?t sing, and never will, some people can?t change their voice much.Originally Posted by EmilyShy
It is annoying to be misgendered on the phone but it is what it is. When the subject comes up with people that know me they say that it never occurs to them that my voice is not feminine. In addition, it has occurred to me that trying to sound female was, for me, pretending to be someone that I wasn?t, something I did for most of my life. I am done with pretending. I experience the freedom of living my truth. I no longer act like, or pretend to be, someone else. Heck, as assistant captain of my rodeo team I even get on the microphone to give instructions before each shift.
I actually know very few trans women living authentically in the real world who actually sound like a cis woman, nor do they care. It certainly doesn?t infringe on their femininity. You actually have to intentionally listen to detect any residual maleness because the overall (natural) presentation is convincingly female.
Perhaps we are comparing apples to oranges here but I think there is an application for Crossdressers. Be yourself! Enjoy the experience. There is nothing that will clock you quicker than looking over your shoulder to see if someone notices you or, trying to sound like like something that you are not.
