Okay..new question for the GG's here...First, the short version....I first started dressing as a preschool kid...the usual getting into Mom's drawers, trying on her stuff. The urged pretty much disappeared until after I got marries and there were women't things around all the time and I gradually escalated. Wife was aware but not supportive. I've gradually increased from lingerie to full on presentation and occasionally going out. She's okay with me spending a few days out of town to indulge my desires, but she still "Doesn't want to see it." We are currently both seeing a therapist (separately at this point) to figure out how to proceed. I want to spend time with her en femme and she is hesitant, although (bless her heart) trying. We are married 42 years and although we were never overly active sexually, our marriage has been essentially sexless for the majority of our life together. Nevertheless we truly love each other and I think that if we're not going to share physical intimacy perhaps we can share this kind of psychological intimacy.

That's kind of the long way to get to my question which is: Why is it so difficult to 'see it." I mean essentially there is so much about life together that we 'don't want to see." We don't want to see each other getting old and wrinkled. We don't want to see our loved ones suffering or ill. We don't want to see our beloved children move away.We don't want to see our country dissolve into chaos. We don't want to see so many of the things that life brings. and yet we accept these things. So why is my crossdressing so different? I understand it may be awkward or uncomfortable. But as they say, stress is the thing that makes things grow. know there are no 'answers' here, but I'd appreciate your thoughts...