I don't think that non-CDers are the least bit interested in trying on women's clothes. In fact, it has been my observation that picturing himself in a dress is personally repulsive for a non-CDer, even if he is not bothered by or prejudiced against the idea that another man might crossdress. Gosh, when one of my sons was a teenager, he even refused to hold a pink umbrella in a pouring rain!

You like to wear women's clothes. It is what it is. You don't have to label yourself as anything specific gender-wise. In fact, I suspect there are as many different definitions for what it means to be a CDer as there are actual CDers! You just need to accept that you enjoy wearing women's clothes.



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There is a great book, ?The Gender Mosaic?. I know that Gretchen here, has also talked about this book. It really describes how brains decode gender and that we are on a planet full of very different people. You need to embrace who you are.
This book is about the false idea that female brains are vastly different than male brains, and the resulting false gender constructs forced upon society, such as "men are better at science and math", "women are more nurturing", "men are natural born leaders", "women are softer", "men are more aggressive", "women are more emotional", etc.

This book calls into question the many things that so many members here believe are true, namely that CDers cross-dress because they are innately feminine. There is no such thing as innate femininity and masculinity. Other than our reproductive capabilities and the physical characteristics determined by our chromosomes (genitalia, breasts, body size, muscle mass, voice, etc), there really isn't much difference between us!

While it's true that some boys are raised to not cry, and some girls are raised to not make waves (to give an example), our society has progressed hugely in these areas in the last few generations. Now, boys who show emotions and girls who are aggressive are not chastised the way they were in the 1950s.

As adults, men are now expected to contribute to the nurturing of children and to the household chores, just as women are expected to contribute to household finances and major family decisions. Everyone is on a more equal footing, as it should be. This book reinforces all of this.

It will be awhile before ALL false social gender conditioning (boys being told to not cry and girls being told to not make waves) is completely eliminated. There persists in our society a fair chunk of people (including many CDers) who are determined to maintain the "men are men and are from mars, and women are women and are from venus" misrepresentation. But in reality, both men and women do run the full spectrum from less to more emotional, less to more aggressive, less to more nurturing, less to more intelligent, etc.

Sorry for the rant. lol. This is a topic near and dear to my heart.