If she won't discuss it then u have few choices. If u know certain things repulse her don't do those around her and hope for the best!
Or, u could force her to reply by setting parameters for u both. Something like this:
"Dear, I worry my dressing to the 9's here at home mite disturb u. So, I will only do that when you're away. I'll tell u when I'm going to do that so neither of us will be surprised. Ok?"
I set up a similar DADT scenario with my displeased, adult, live in daughter. It worked very well and we never had to discuss my dressing again!
