I'm not going to get into the debate of whether or not counselling is a good idea.Originally Posted by Sienna_cd
I will try to answer your request and give you a couple suggestions of how to get the best results. (These are from my experience)
First - don't be afraid. A counselling office is probably one of the safest places there is to talk.
Second - don't hide things. How can you get help if you don't really ask for it?
Third - be TOTALLY honest, with yourself as well as your counsellor. This one can be tricky because we're afraid of what me might find.
Fourth - be patient. Years of building the "you" you are now, will require at least a little time to redo.
Lastly - Don't expect the counsellor to heal you. They are only there to guide you. If there is any healing to be done, you have to do it.
Go, or don't go - either way, I wish you and your wife well in finding the best path forward.
Right after posting this, i saw that while I was typing, GretchenM said pretty much the same thing, only much more eloquently.
I guess you can consider me the "Cliff's Notes" version.
