I'm a little confused Diane, my post is the very opposite to your concerns regarding women being born to be led and not leading.
I'm not sure if you are saying my wife is offensive in the fact that she prefers dressing me as a female to dominate me because that's how women should be treated, she would definitely have something to say about that!
I certainly would not like to be seen as being offensive in fact our relationship empowers my wife to the extreme.
I don't believe different lifestyles are based on outdated stereotypes as long as its consensual and shaming people into thinking they are in that mindset is in itself offensive.
Amy x
