Diane,

I agree with you that it is perfectly understandable that GG's and our individual wives in particular, would question our motives when we express a desire to dress and act as an attractive female, or however close we can get to that goal.

But again, that really was not the point of my reaction a few posts back. It was specifically the use of the word "accessible" in connection with certain items of clothing that I found to be troubling, because it, in my mind at least, suggest that it was more a practical consideration of "ease" and also the thought that the person wearing such clothing, dresses and skirts specifically, was presenting themselves as available for an advance.

It triggered memories of hearing the terrible "What was she wearing? Well she was asking for it" which is just horrible nonmatter how you cut it, and I hope we as a society are moving away from that thought as fast as possible. That should never be an acceptable defense.

It is important to remember that this was not Reine suggesting this, this was her SO explaining how this was a typical reaction from men watching her wearing a skirt. That is what is concerning to me. Is this really true? Do men in general believe this?
I have not heard other men say that and I hope that is not the way men generally think.

So that is what I am curious about, do men actually think like this, or was this a little bit of an over interpretation of men just being men and thinking that a woman wearing a dress or a skirt is a little more exciting to look at, than one in slacks or jeans.

You are in a very fortunate situation, Diane, in that you have the opportunity to discuss this with your wife and get immediate and personal feedback. I understand that it is not quite as simple as it sounds, but you do have a good communications channel, and I am a little envious of that to be honest.
The rest of us benefit from your interactions, and I am certainly thankful for that, since it does provide a lot of insight.

I too am always interested in what GG's have to say about this, and the fact that we have several GG's here on the forum is an amazing thing which I hope nobody is taking for granted. They each have their reasons for being here, some of which I am aware, and some I am not, but the fact that they are willing to provide feedback is invaluable to many of us.

I do at times feel that if we are not able to explain ourselves to these women who are willing to listen, how are we ever going to be able to explain our needs and desires to our own SO's, who may be much less willing to listen.

Anyway, main point from me in this debate is about the use of the specific word "accessible", and I hope we can get maybe a little more clarification on that.

Suzie