Funny you should say that as one of the first things he said after the dust settled was that he wanted a movie (to give to his girl friend). He laughed and said that he wouldn't say anything to anyone if I took him to get it. I laughed right back and told him that I'd advise him NOT to, but that he was welcome to tell anyone he wanted. I told him the only reason that I hesitate to let people know is out of concern for HIM and his sister. After we stopped laughing, I strongly advised him not to talk to anyone about it, because it could ultimately come back to hurt him, or his little sister who must follow him through the same schools. I'm reasonably sure he understands and has no intention of telling anyone.Originally Posted by older not wiser
Hi Kim, I read and re-read your post and to be honest I'm just a little bit skeptical of the fact that your son is so willing to accept this. Please don't misunderstand me but most 17 yr olds have a "blackmail" streak in them. This is not to say that your son does but rather a fact of life. Please be careful in further interaction as this thing may come back to bite you. I truly wish you all the happiness in this world. May God grant you and your family love, acceptance and forgivness.
BonnieAnne
The next day he again tried testing me be arguing when it was time to do his only chores (Trash and Dishes). He kept telling me to wait a minute and he'd get to it. I guess he thought now that he knew Dad has a softer side, he could get away with pushing his luck. I gave him a few minutes to end his emails and close his game and then told him to do his chores again. Once again he told me to wait. By this time I'd decided it was a dangerous precedent to set, so I insisted and got him off the PC.
I'm glad I did it, because now he knows nothing has changed, he can't get away with anything that he didn't used to get away with just because he knows Dad is a CD.
Life is back to "normal" with the exception that I no longer have to worry about him catching me.
Hugs to all!
Kim
