Country Girl GG
I have always enjoyed your points of view. Now I get to tell you about this obsession.
I am one of the very lucky few.
My GG and I have taken this CD thing all the way and it has made for a very fulfilling relationship. We haven't had major problems because we talk about everything and neither of us ever holds our tongue. We are also lucky in that we have a lot in common and we do just about everything together. So we have lots to talk about other than CDing. We really do not talk about CDing much, but we share it all the time. She has told me if I want to be a full time girl it is OK by her. But I am Ok at 50/50. She demands and expects a lot of attention and I try to give it to her.
Now about the obsession...I have had a very hard time getting to the point where there is a balance between CDing and the rest of my life. It has not been easy at all. And this just does not apply to my wife but to my job and my finances and everything. I am getting there though. There have been times when I blamed all the distraction on Michelia and my GG made me realize that to do that is not fair. Michelia and I and my GG all need each other. Maybe without Michelia I would have gone down into depression, who knows? Our life has been a challenge this last year (not CD related). So I am not clear on the answer . I definitely obsessed, but maybe I needed that at the time!
One observation if I may - and that may serve you and other GG's and their CDs well: I believe (and I think my special SO and I have corroborated this) that it is important for CDs and their GGs to find other interests in their lives if they do not have them. Whether these are shared or not. This will go a long way towards balancing other aspects of life with CDing.
Michelia
