Quote Originally Posted by Wendrme View Post
... The female friends I am talking about are the women in couples, who my wife and I have been friends with for years. The kind of firends where you spend every New Years Eve together for the last many years.
The six of us are really close friends.

The men would shit their pants if they knew about my dressing. ...
Don't forget that no matter how close you feel you are to these people, they are bound to be more loyal to their partners than to you. So it is extremely probable that once your female friends know, then it will not be long before their partners know also - even if they have been told not to let you know that they know.
So I think you need to be comfortable with the whole group knowing - not just part of it

Good luck

Tania