Hi, sorry I haven't replied to a few of the answers here. I needed a rest from thinking about it all so much. But I did read all of them and it's good to hear your lovely helpful views and opinions and also to know that I'm not alone with the confusion and that lots of people have felt some degree of confusion over all this gender stuff.

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Thought I would update this thread with something that happened today...because I was making a video for you guys, with me as "boy poc" (well... more like "androgynous poc" actually) and "girl poc" ... I still had my proper make up on and so I wore it to work and my hair tied back in a ponytail. I got flirted at by so many horrible straight men (haha I'm not saying straight men are horrible in general, but these were), and a bunch of stupid STUPID boys who hung around just to play jokes on me and annoy me, thinking they were hilarious. None of the being-flirted-with/fancied felt nice... NONE of it.
It really p*ssed me off. I'm sure I didn't used to hate being fancied/flirted at by straight men QUITE so much... hmm.
The other day I had my hair in bunches at work and just mascara, this cute canadian guy was talking to me. That's the only person I have enjoyed being flirty with me for ages (he wasn't even that flirty, just sweet).

I just felt like saying "Oh f*ck off and leave me alone you idiots" today.