My SO is still trying to get a divorce from her second husband, a sociopath who molested her daughter and granddaugher. Confessed, convicted ..., got 6 frickin months! He had been sent to live with his uncle when younger because he was molesting his sisters, and his mom denied it. He was the consumate manipulator. He stole from my GF who was working two jobs, while he worked occasionally for his dad's company, but had all the toys. He convinced my SO that she had misplaced a deposit (nearly $20 K), because she was exhausted and distracted, but he had stolen it and at least two others!
My ex and I accepted her niece and nephew to live with us while their mom explored a series of very torrid lesbian relationships. I have no love for their mom, but absolutely detest their stepdad, who molested our niece, once while under our supervision. We did not recognize the symptoms! I will go to my grave regretting our allowing him to take her on a 'sightseeing' trip when she was living with us! We just were not on the lookout for that level of malevolence.
Looking back at my childhood, I believe I can identify several peers who were being sexually exploited. The well-developed girls who 'knew too much', the poor little guy with the big mean dad, etc.
I think we are all in a state of denial about child abuse. It was screaming at us from our neice and nephew, but we didn't understand it. While an outsider would argue that this lady must have known and understood what was happending, that may not necessarily be the case. She may not have outed you because she realizes that she 'should have seen' what was going on, and doesnt lay blame upon you for seeing what she denied.
I believe that child molesters should be shot and pissed on.
