Sorry, Kieron, but it's in the Pirate Code, page 3, paragraph 4 (about half way down the page) . . . "Take what you can, give nothing back" - this applies to rum cake too.
The crossdressing community is one that needs to stick together and continue to be there for each other for whatever one needs. We are always trying to improve the forum to better serve the crossdresser in all of us.