Quote Originally Posted by Sharon View Post
I have to say that I am very sad to see the intolerance being shown here.

Can I identify with the author of this thread? No.
Do I find this whole humiliation thing disturbing and insulting to other crossdressers? Yes

BUT -- there are no rules being broken here and..., well, let's just say that to each their own, huh?
I'm going to do something I have never done here, and disagree with a moderator. (Well, there's a first time for everything.)

I'm also going to partly hijack this thread because (1) it appears that the poster has moved on and (2) Sharon raises a really interesting question about the meaning of "tolerance" within this community.

As you could see from what I wrote, I agree it's not our business to disparage the personal tastes of another person - irrespective of how unorthodox those tastes might be. I would have been very disappointed if the responders had disparaged the poster for wanting to be sissified or humiliated...but nobody did. Most responders, myself included, indicated that they disapproved of this particular form of public activity as degrading to crossdressers generally. And that's it.

I disagree with your implication that the only cutoff for disapproval is at the point where this forum's rules are being broken. That's plainly not true (and I think, in one of your subsequent posts, you do not continue to advance that argument). Like it or not, this forum DOES have a general tenor. It is generally hetero, generally monogamous, and generally "mainstream" - if such a word can be used with a straight face in the transgender community. And given the overwhelming weight of opinion on the subject of de-marginalizing ourselves as a community, I don't think anyone should be afraid to express their disapproval of an activity that runs counter to that goal.

Yes, perhaps our tenor does lead to a little bit of blandness. And you (Sharon) are right to worry about untrammeled insistence as to conformity with any norm! But a great many of us are here precisely because of that little bit of blandness. The internet is chock full with TG oriented sites that cater to every kink and perversion that human ingenuity can devise. Most of us have found only a small handful of places that blend a little bit of kink and a great deal of support, sensible advice and stability. The moderators here should be proud of what they - what YOU - help to create. And if that means a little unintended marginalizing at the fringes of our own community...well. Let's just pray that everyone takes a deep breath before writing in response to a thread like this, and tries to remember that the poster is a person too.

OK I am done. Flame away. If people want to get really nasty, go ahead and PM me.

Erica