Thanks for all the kind words. He was a lot more understanding and compassionate when he got home. He really is a sweet guy when he wants to be.

I am in class 3 nights a week, the kids are gone this week and I came home last night to find SO on the couch wrapped up with a blanket in a 'hands off' way. (We usually snuggle at night)
I thought it was strange and went upstairs to change clothes, I noticed that he had been in my 'naughty' panties. He later said he was tired and went to bed early.

I can guess what happened, he dressed, 'got off' then had no use for me last night. This is the hardest part to deal with. He talks about his selfishness and how he wants all my attention (he hates when I fight with my ex, says it takes away from him) I guess our next talk will go like this, "You know how you always say that you are selfish and you want me all to yourself? Well, I want the same thing. You need to figure out a way to come to me when you get turned on...no more of this self-gratification and leaving me out in the cold. I don't masterbate during the day only to turn you down at night and I think it only fair that you give me the same consideration."

I am not totally sure that it's sexual for him but all the signs are pointing that way.