If you can accept the situation then leave things as they are. I suspect the reason you are posting is because you cannot. I was not able to do that either. Try your best to communicate with her openly, honestly and clearly. Be prepared with answers to all her questions. Try to understand why it disgusts her and work with her through her truth. Her point of view, her truth is as valid to her as your dressing is to you.
Hopefully, there will be some movement over time. In some cases it is more than a spouse can deal with and so then you reach a point where you give it up (unlikely), accept the way things are (difficult) or move on (what I am in the process of doing).
Each of us has our own unique journey to travel, for each of us cross dressing holds a unique value. For some it defines who we are and so cannot be compromised (my case) for others it is less important than our relationship. For some, because of love, it works out to some level that is workable for all and in other cases it will never work out and you have to know when to cut bait.
I wish you the best on that journey, it is not an easy one, however, it is one full of learning.
Huggs
Melissa
