Originally Posted by
Sheri 4242
Rhonda,
Let me get right to the heart of some VERY important specifics:
(A.) How much dressing have you done in front of your wife? (Just need a sketch of what you have done. Like if I was to answer this question I'd start by saying that my wife has known since just before we got engaged, and I'd say that (1.) I always underdress (always wear panties, don't even own a pair of men's underwear). (2.) Always dress in femme things for bed; no wig, just clothes (while wife dresses in one of my t-shirts for bed 99.9999% of the time). (3.) All of my tennis shoes, jeans, some of my street shoes, and most of my short pants are women's. (4.) Dress "fully" around the house in afternoon/evenings as often as possible - usually don't wear wig when do this. (5.) Have dressed fully and completely and been out in public from time-to-time; most recently my wife and I did a "marriage vow renewal in Las Vegas with me as the bride - plenty of professional photos, including several out in front of the chapel on Las Vegas Blvd (the "Las Vegas Strip") where I was literally seen by thousands upon thousands -- kind of hard to deny that with the camera sapping shot-after-shot.
I dressed in front of her (such as it was) right after we got married. Not since. A couple of years ago she wrote me a long note about how she wanted me to be complete, loved all of me, etc. At that time she suggested I go out of town to indulge this side of me. I accumulated a lot of clothes. Not hidden. I had a drawer full of panties and bras. I wore only panties every day. No mens underwear.
(B.) Did I understand you correctly that she has not only known about your CDing for a long time but has been participatory? If you didn't say that, then tell me what's what.
Well, if buying me panties as special occasion gifts, yes. Otherwise, no.
(C.) Does ANYBODY else know? For example, in my situation, one of my stepdaughters knows and is very okay with it. This is a VERY important question!!!!!!!
Nobody else knows.
(D.) In your personall life, have you been the sole breadwinner? Or, has your wife worked, too? Does she work now? Would you say that you (and your wife/children) have lived a fairly comfortable life or are you just scrapping by? IOW: do you have money set aside? Are you financially secure or not? Do you have investments? A living trust? There are MAJOR reasons for these -- I'm not just prying.
She stayed home with the kids for 9 years. She went to work about 2 years ago, but hasn't made enough money to contribute much.
With the answers to these, I have a couple of things I can tell you that may be very helpful. I would have PM'ed these to you, but there are several lawyers on this forum and I think it in your best interest that they see what I have asked, and more importantly, what you answer and what I say in return!!!
In the meantime, DON'T get all tied up in worries -- "it aint over till its over." She can't extort you -- and under ABA rules of conduct, her lawyer can't allow for the appearance of extortion to enter into this!!!
