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I feel the same 90% of the time unnoticed satisfied and comfortable just being one of the crowed, then there other times I like to be questionable, is that a guy with girly body (curves and breasts), with whispers and double takes.Quote:
Originally Posted by AndreaS
It has probably all been said, but blending for me is not a 'goal', it is what I would like to do whenever I want to and it is simply being able to walk about among and mix with other people without standing out as some Godzilla monster. There is a big debate about being accepted as a guy in a dress as opposed to being perceived to be a woman. I want to be perceived to be a woman. I have no need for vocal interaction... that would be difficult to pull off! I just want to be able to experience being out and about looking as much as I can as a woman without hassle.
I agree with the girls that mentioned that wearing age appropriate, and venue appropriate, female clothing which allows for a male function in society as a female would is all one can ask for. I do not have the natural shape or voice but I try hard to present as a woman when I dress.
i think of blending as a crossdresser doing ordinary things in life as a woman, without being easily identifiable as a genetic male in female clothes. passing i would define as a crossdresser doing ordinary things in life as a woman and being accepted as a woman because her makeup, accessories, mannerisms, voice and clothing are so convincing that it is very difficult to discern that she is a genetic male in female clothes.
i agree with the girls who have made comments to the effect that they want to blend in the sense that they don't want to stick out as a man dressed in women's clothes, but they also want to attract favorable attention for their presentation as a woman with respect to clothing, makeup, and behavior. and, that's not easy to do. i think some of the hardest things to which i had to accustom myself when i started going out in public was the realization that almost every woman i pass on the street is comparing her presentation to mine and trying to decide if she is more attractive than I am, while simultaneously almost every man i pass on the street is measuring me up as a potential sexual partner.
i certainly want those reactions from genetic women and men, but fact that women receive much more careful scrutiny by both sexes than men makes it hard for a person who wants to actually pass relatively close inspection without being clocked as a man.
when i'm in blending mode in new york i try to lodge myself in a niche somewhere between feminine and androgyne, which even genetic girls do occasionally. unfortunately, i don't spend as much time in manhattan as i did a couple of years ago, but what i love about the city is how easy it is to just step out on the street and walk around, window shopping, grabbing a snack and a cappucino at a cafe, riding a taxi, et cetera. another thing i like about the city is that unlike the rust belt, where lots of women go shopping with minimal makeup, most manhattan girls are wearing $50 bucks of estee lauder to go across the street for cappucino and danish on sunday morning, so having foundation, eyeliner, eyeshadow and carefully applied lipstick, inter alia, does not make me appear out of place while at the same time helping my feminine presentation.
blending ................,..................
not blending ................?.................
Try thinking of the term blending while your are only looking at GG's. While most look pretty much dressed in the same fashion there are others who attract your attention by being either way over dressed , or underdressed, or really dirty, or obese, or showing way too much cleavage and yes even the knockout that you can't take your eyes off of. While I would love to the last of those I mentioned I accept what my limitations are and that seems to work for me.
As long as anyone would have to take a second really close look to even suspect something about me is different I have blended pretty well. Emotionally and comfortlevel it gets easier the more you go out in public. With my wifes help I have learned to present in a manner that is attractive and fashionable yet understated. She is always telling me my earrings or necklace is too bling for where we are going or the time of day. As we all love to do, I enjoy dressing as my fantasy woman but unless we are headed to a club holding a Drag Show I save that for staying at home
I agree completely, this is certainly what I'm going for. I know I've got a fair number of giveaways on close inspection (and one huge one if I have to talk!) but since the vast majority of interaction you'll have with people while out and about is the equivalent of two ships passing in the night it rarely gets to that second glance. That level of blending, for the most part, allows you to pick and choose when you want to have interaction with people that does go beyond the glance. It's not perfect, but it works for me.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sara Jessica
-Bree