A question for the long timers

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Originally Posted by AlannahNorth

This particular 'pastime' is sometimes a dormant hobby and sometimes an obsession, for me. At low tide I may go for months without really wearing much of anything feminine, but when the tide is high, it can be hard to get my mind to focus on much of anything else.

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It seems that my tide is going out. That is a relief. I have no idea when it will come in. That is quite unsettling.

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Originally Posted by noeleena

[...] I know that for some what ever the detail it can become an obsession to the point of all else fails and it can rule your life so much you think of nothing else, time to lay down your rule of thumb divide your time so you have a quility of life as well as having a balanced life as you live it,

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New hobbies tend to occupy too much of my time/attention/money for "a while". The urge diminishes greatly over time, eventually getting to the point where I consciously set aside time to play with them because "they used to give me pleasure". That type of balance comes naturally and easily. If crossdressing follows the same arc, three years from now I won't be interested in it any more and will only dress briefly and occasionally because it is something I used to do and used to enjoy. Others report the urge returning stronger than before.

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Originally Posted by Isha

[...] I came out to my wife and she supported my dressing [...] There was a gradual increase in dressing which has culminated in going out. However after the initial surge it was finding balance which brought me back. [...] You will find balance and when you do you will know because it is just the right amount of you (both boy and girl) to make life enjoyable.

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There's that "balance" word again. Before long I will begin to believe the secret to a happy life is keeping things in balance. Trouble is, that requires a level of self discipline I find hard to achieve when fogged in.

Thanks all, for your insights.

Best wishes
MsVal

Hi MsVal

I hope for your sake the "hobby" thing wears off. Like you, I have tried other hobbies, and they always lose their shine, mine never takes 4 years though. Somehow CDing has never lost its shine for me, I wish it would. Yes I am saying I would like out.

Val, I don't want to be redundant here so read my threads and answers to other's threads. I am also 65 and have been a CDer for my entire live and out in public for the last 35 years. I call myself a convenient CDer since I do not dress in the summer when it is to hot for the clothes and makeup I prefer. So for me it gets worse in the early Fall until late Spring. That's still a large chunk of the year to keep the pink fog within it's boundaries and can take it's toll, especially with the wife. It's usually worse after a long time in the closet. Been there and done that more than once.

It sounds to me like you're still closeted about it. and the limited time you have contributes to your occasional obsessions. If you are out and able to do the things you normally do with other people while dressed the way you want, you don't think so much about it; you just do it. It can frequently just add to your enjoyment of things you already enjoy, and it doesn't take over all of your thinking.

I think the answer is yes. The fog comes and goes with what is happening in your life. But, the desire to cross dress does not go away, so accept it and enjoy your dressing when time and circumstance allow.

I'm new to the forum but not to CD. Every once in a while I have what my wife calls "one of 'those' days." I want to immerse myself in all things feminine to the exclusion of all else. I guess "pink fog" is as good a term and any other. Herself thinks it may be a hormonal thing.
Whatever the cause, I have learned to just go with the feeling. If time as situation permit, she and I will spend the day shopping or watching chick flicks. I've been known to spend the entire day surfing Pinterest for lingerie.
In a day or two things get back to "normal" (whatever that might be) and I get on with work and life in general.
Now the big question, the one you are really asking: Is the "pink fog" a bad thing? Not in the least. We live in a universe filled with cycles, cycles of the seasons, the cycle of the days. Cycles is what we do. Go with the flow and enjoy the ride.