Originally Posted by
Shananigans
Yes, that is exactly what I am saying. Gender is very internal for me...nothing about a bra or a dress yells, "OH MY GOD! LIKE, I'M TOTALLY A WOMAN!" No...not even. In fact, those things matter very little. ...
So, in an essence, THAT is an outward portrayal of my feminine essence and has nothing to do with clothes. In fact, the clothes I was wearing at the time were completely "masculine." But, all of the maternal care, protection, and love for someone so close to my heart is a better example of an outward portrayal of my feminine essence than any clothing item. ...
I see CDing as often a part of who someone is and I have seen where wives and family members want absolutely nothing to do with it. A lot of the time, it's the wife in question and usually the wife was informed years after marriage. I can't say I exactly blame this person for being upset, especially if you had been married to someone for 10 years and suddenly he is a CD and wants it to be FT. But, in this area we are talking about ADDICTION. And, an addiction is where something in your life is so important that everything else suffers as a consequence. I hear of CDs that max out credit cards, get a family into a financial crisis, go out every night to TG clubs leaving their wife at home to care for the kids...
Sorry, but that's the opposite of feminine in how I was raised. I see what is feminine in a completely different light than most CDs...being a woman has jack sh*t to do with my clothes. I could throw them away tomorrow and still express my femininity through my actions, my compassion, and my care. Things that people with an addiction lack. In fact, if you have a clothing addiction to the point you are maxing out credit cards and going out to clubs every night of the week instead of caring for your family...you are the opposite of feminine. No amount of lipstick is going to help you.