Telling the SO, Bad Reaction, Giving up CD'ing

[Miss Misery]

Thanks for your candor, Michelle.

I made a mistake by not telling her before marriage but I didn't know the truth about cd'ing. I thought everyone like that transitioned. Plus it was sexual early in my life, so I had ever reason to believe that I could beat it. Since I had no desire at that time to transition. Being in my early 20's, high sex drive and a gorgeous GF was too much. When I married I had no desire at all to crossdress but that changed about one year later.

I think that this happens to a lot of us.

What is she going to think when she finds your stash after you die? She is going to think that she never knew you at all destroying much of what you had together.

Why would she think she never knew me? Is that all I am is a CD? No. She just didn't know THAT. Like she doesn't know that she farts in her sleep If you're worried about her jumping to conclusions then leave a written explanation with your stash.

Besides if you live a lie all of your life, what did you miss by not being truthful with her.

Ask Giorgi about this one.

I'm not advocating lie, lie, lie, at all. Just that coming out to whoever is no guaranteed nirvana. It carries great risk that some might not be willing to take at that time.