Lying

[Sandra]

In addition, Sandra has said that the revelation of CDing was akin to "the bottom dropping out" of the SO's life. Perhaps you can give us some insight as to why CDing carries such great impact when compared to other common deceptions that husbands inflict upon their wives. For example, a husband might say that he has to work overtime on Wednesdays and is actually having a few drinks with his buddies at a bowling alley. Lying to his wife about this is certainly deceitful and wrong and in fact he is putting himself in more danger with this act than he would by privately CDing. However, I have a feeling that revelation of the CDing would have a much greater impact on the wife than revelation of the illicit drinking and bowling. Why do you think this is?

IMO there is no difference between lying about the cding and the drinking etc, the depth of hurt will be dependent on the length of deceit. You cannot liken cding to wanting a night out with the lads, it is down to the frequency, the drinking may happen only once but in most cases not all, the cding is a heck of a lot more often.

I also think that some of the GG's here are much too harsh on some things. This thread has actually raised my blood pressure with a few of the posts. I've sensed a lot of hostility towards cd's on this one.

Care to elaborate?