Why do GG’s have a problem with US?

[ReineD]

Yes, I know all too well that a woman doesn't need to feel threatened by me, not in the sense that I am more womanly than she is, that really would be an absurd suggestion. She has a real, female body, something I can only dream of. It is I who feels inadequate and outdone.

As much as I try to focus only on what is said in a particular thread, it is sometimes difficult for me to erase from my memory the countless posts I've read in this forum and a sentiment that is shared by many, that generally CDers are so much more feminine and dress much better, and even "pass" better than GGs, who are all so darned masculine because they wear men's clothes! lol :p

Every time I read these comments I believe they are absurd, and I think some of that showed through in my comments above. I was triggered by so many people who yet again said that we feel our femininity is threatened, we are jealous, and one person even said we are selfish. Sorry.

[SIZE="3"]Yes, this is what I was trying to get at in the OP, hoping someone would think about the bigger picture. I really believe (duh) that women keep civilization afloat, so they are like sentinels, each imbued with her own sense of propriety – this is a GOOD thing, and I have no wish to challenge it with my gender-bending dressing exercises. It’ll never be an “US vs. THEM” scenario, in my mind, because that is not only counter-productive, but self-destructive as well...[/SIZE]

I think the mistake might have been attributing the disapproval to only women. This is an issue among both men and women, in all the major cultures in our civilization, and it is a bias that has existed all through recorded history, except for a few small pockets here and there who did accept the notion of Two-Spirit, Kathoey, Fa'afafine, Hijra, etc.

But if I were to name one gender who disapproves more than the other, it would be men, not women.

Personally, I've always believed that mass cultural and historical disapproval of gender and sexual variance might well be hard-wired in our collective reptilian brains precisely because of our instincts for survival - even though in modern society we're learning to be more tolerant due to inroads made in scientific research. It's the basic belief in the mating rituals that guarantee our survival, rituals that have at their essence, men who are men and women who are women ... and the dances they dance together that are no more different today than they have been for tens of thousands years. Boy meets girl. Boy pursues girl. Girl accepts boy. They mate and form bonds to assure the survival of their young. The birds and the bees and all that. Anything that is perceived as a threat to this causes massive social anxiety.

Today we're learning that gender and sexual variance are OK as long as they aren't in our backyards, but it is still a difficult thing to accept when it touches a spouse, parent, or an offspring. And I think it is only because women have made such inroads in economic equality in the last half century, that so many wives do learn to accept or at least tolerate the cross-gender expression in their husbands. But, when a husband becomes enamored with the expression of femininity at the expense of his wife, this is perceived as a threat to the bonds that a wife feels are necessary for the maintenance of their marriage. It is not the wife's femininity that is threatened, it is the dance that is hard wired in her to dance with her husband, that is now interrupted. The wife knows that her femininity is unchanged in the eyes of other men. Further, if these husbands want to transition, few wives will be able to stay the course. They are hard-wired hetero and this is why they married husbands. They cannot change their sexual orientations.

And although progeny is not an issue, even gay men also experience difficulties when their gay partners all of a sudden want to become women. This puts the gay partner in a bind, because he is not attracted to women.

Perhaps the female has become ugly in her masculinity so the male creates feminine beauty in himself to replace what has been lost from the world.

It is not so much that female physical beauty has been lost but the inner vessel has been corrupted and the hardness inside has destroyed the softness outside making it appear false, manipulative and brittle.

It does not surprise me that men run from their wives and into crossdressing.

We are just as feminine as we've always been in both in our personal relationships with our husbands and in the beds we share with them, despite world economic circumstances that have forced dual-income marriages, thus bridging the gender gap in the academic and working worlds.

We are still beautiful, we are still women, and if men want to crossdress it is not because they are running away from us. It is because they are crossdressers and they are wired differently than men who are not.

... or, they are doing this for fetish, and if so, it started way before they met us.