Masculine vs feminine: finding the balance

[Billiejosehine]

Looking back at my life up to this point, I beginning to realize that deep down there is an internal between my masculine and feminine part of myself. I was never in balance, and in fact I tried to deny my feminine side over masculine side, just to fit in. This only caused me emotional pain and distress in my life and ultimately the end of my marriage. Having made the decision to stop denying each part of my self and begin the transition towards my true self; I have begun to look into and learn how I can bring balance in who I am. I have come across a lot of information and wanted to share with you what I found and learned.

This is a long post, so I apologize.

In our universe there exist to polarities as seen by many symbols and expressions of consciousness. In eastern philosophy, they are referred to as Yin and Yang. Yin being the feminine or feeling part of self. Yang the masculine aspect, thinking, the mind, and act of doing. These polarities have nothing to do with the sex of individual, but rather how an individuals consciousness expresses itself, whether its more towards the thinking or feeling.

Ultimately, we all want to be in balance with both aspects within ourselves. Regardless if you're male or female, when balanced you experience your whole complete healthy self as a human being; that is loving, caring, kind, strong, wise, and many more. Even though it is important to embody both the masculine and feminine, throughout history, in culture, and in most cases, today; we have witnessed an over-emphasis in the male polarity.

For example; this male polarity, or thinker in us, has judged the feminine nature as embarrassing or shameful, bad or evil, and is represented mythically by the shame hidden by the Fig leaf. Negatively judging the feminine of the self, creates denial of the feeling center and it has become forbidden for men to show feminine qualities or feelings. If a guy is seen as sensitive and introspective, he is laughed at and labeled as a wimp. For men, it has become dangerous to show feelings or let people in, for fear of ridicule and rejection. It's no wonder why a lot of men keep their desires to express their feminine side hidden from the world, such as CD'ing.

Fear and judgment against the feminine is the primary reason our society worldwide is so out of balance. The structure of our society is backwards, stuck in reverse, then the natural order of things. We have a society today that has a thinking, male force, without feelings or advice from the inner feminine or heart. A heartless mess is the end result. For example; if you have powerful strength and little goodness, you are harmful to others. If you are good, yet weak, you can harm yourself by allowing others to take advantage of you. Even through our own emotional experiences, we may become off balance and develop a stronger masculine or feminine polarity. For example, an adult who was abused as a child, may develop a stronger masculine polarity to protect the injured child within.

Another example of the masculine and feminine imbalance in our society is the Burka that woman where in the middle eastern, male polarity cultures. The broker literally covers the female in order to keep her in denial and control. This is a clear physical manifestation of the internal conflict between the masculine and feminine.

When we are off-balance, we sometimes see the opposite sex partner to feel more whole. But if your imbalance between the masculine and feminine, the more you're able to be in a healthy relationship that is balanced, motivated by authentic not "needy" love for feeling complete. The key thing to remember is that even if you're balanced, if the other is not, conflict such as non-acceptance, will arise in the relationship.

As a society, some believe we are truly in need of rebalancing. When we take a closer look, we notice how to start bringing more balance to the world around us; one person at time. So despite what society may say about gender expression, it is a healthy to do. And there is pleasant shift on the planet lately with the increase of feminine energy over the masculine, that has been dominant for so long. As we continue to grow and evolve in consciousness as a collective; bring balance to our feminine and masculine; we also bring balance to our planet and the universe.

Do you resonate more with the feminine or masculine aspect of yourself? Notice if you feel balanced or preferring one over the other.

Masculine qualities
Action oriented
Focused
Assertive
Passionate
Transforming
Stability
Protect
Support
Logic
Reason
Commonsense
Survival

Feminine qualities
Receptive
Creation
Instinctual wisdom
Relating
Nurturing
Compassion
Intuition
Empathy
Calm
Healing
Emotional awareness
Expression and communication of emotions

How balanced are you between the masculine and feminine energies?
What do you do to keep yourself balanced and feel more whole?