Hi Billie Jo,
Very thought provoking and well laid out thread. However, I believe that what you are truly talking about is societal views/opinions on what constitutes "masculine" and "feminine". It puts me in mind of the Robert Southey poem "What are little boys made of"
What are little boys made of
Snips & snails & puppy dogs tails
And such are little boys made of.
What are little girls made of
Sugar & spice & all things nice
This was society's view of the differences between boys and girls and to a large degree it has not changed. Boys are rough and tumble ready for action whereas girls are sweet, innocent, nurturing and demure. Is that the absolute truth . . . nope. Just look around at girls and boys today and that poem doesn't seem to fit. Likewise look around at women and men today and society's view of masculine and feminine seems antiquated.
Those qualities as you rightly state make someone whole and a good person. That is what we all should strive for. So in response to your question, I like to think I have struck a good balance. Is it a perfect balance "nope" but it is still balanced.
Hugs
Isha
