The nature of being femme (GGs also welcome)

[Marcelle]

Wow . . . this is exactly why this gal does not like labels. This incessant need to pigeon hole one group of people into one neat category (feminine or masculine). :facepalm: I never got the concept . . . oh I get the theory, history, philosophy, biology but its raison d'etre, never made sense to me. I don't consider myself masculine as I would not even know how to define that any more than I consider myself feminine or could define that. I try to live my life as a good person, show empathy, respect others, help others. Do I get mad, jealous, catty, angry, hostile? You bet but anyone can given the right circumstances.

I have been in situations where I have seen the worse humanity has to offer (I will spare you the details). Was it all men doing these things? I'll give you one guess and "yes" is not the right answer. Humans are capable of the whole range of emotion and to attribute them to one gender is egregious. With emotions come action so a hostile person will most likely reach out and lay a smack down on someone. A empathetic person is more likely to act kindly towards others. However, one gender does not lay claim to any one emotion or the actions that go with it. I knew a guy, manly man extraordinaire who never batted an eye when his buddies got hit or killed (he was just being stoic, steely, gritty, manly . . . whatever). This same guy broke down into an emotional sobbing wreck when a dog he was feeding wandered into a minefield and was killed. Did he suddenly throw off the mantle of masculinity and become feminine? Nope, he was demonstrating humanity and it can be a hard task master.

I stopped trying to refer to myself as feminine (funny thing for a cross dresser who goes out dressed as woman) but if truth be told I have no concept of femininity only a societal definition and we all know how great societal definitions and sterotypes work out. When I am out, dressed girl or boy I am me. I experience the whole range of emotions and would react no differently boy or girl. I don't suddenly put on my guy hat and find a pipe to plumb or a car to fix. Likewise I don't put on a dress and suddenly decide I want to take up needlepoint or cross-stitch. My habits, hobbies, emotions, actions, reactions have never changed . . . perhaps I am weird. I just don't believe in either concept . . . we are humans that is all. The only difference is biological.

So endeth the rant . . . sorry.

Hugs

Isha