Recently on my blog I received an interesting question about how my wife and I are perceived in public. Both Jules (my wife) and I responded on my blog and gave our opinions on the questions. To that post I received a comment from a reader that has had me thinking ever since. Basically the comment was that the "key" factor in my wife accepting me as transgender is that my wife is bisexual (even though the post had nothing to do with my wife's acceptance of me). I responded that I thought my wife's acceptance of me is due primarily to our ability to communicate with each other. The person then responded with:
Being a bisexual or gender non-conforming wife opens your mind to non-standard relationships with transgender husbands and minimizes those reasons that wives divorce their husbands for crossdressing. I have seen this as a common trend where these relationships exist.
On the other hand, no amount of talking between them will save a marriage if the wife can not except or is not inclined towards tolerance. I have seen this too.
From what I have seen on this forum, most marriages do not end in divorce upon revealing one's gender variances. I think if we could classify them, possibly what happens most is some form of DADT. But I have read of many marriages ending but many marriages with quite accepting spouses.
So my question to any of you, how many of you that have accepting spouses attribute it to having a bisexual or gender non-conforming spouse? And how many of you attribute it to the overall relationship you and your spouse have, regardless of your spouse's gender or sexual preferences?
