Quote Originally Posted by Jennie-cd View Post
My sense is the person is rationalizing. I don't think there' s a hard and fast rule to be had here. But do I have evidence? No.
I think there are many factors involved in being accepted or not. And understand I feel that anything short of divorce constitutes some form of acceptance. So even the most vehement DADT is still not divorce.

I think there is some rationalizing going on, or at least some theorizing based upon the experiences they have been involved with or have observed. As well, I think if you have been in a situation where you have been rejected for revealing your gender variance, I am sure that no one really wants to "blame" themselves or their approach for the rejection and when it is stated that it may be the communication in the relationship it sort of implies that one may be at fault. But communication is a two-way affair and if both parties are not committed to it, it will not work.


Quote Originally Posted by gendermutt View Post
But I would think, that a woman who is attracted to other WOMEN, would want the REAL thing, not a man dressed as a woman..
My wife and I have been talking about this quite a bit recently. Being bisexual, she does indeed want the real thing. She likes both. She finds both to be stimulating. She does not really see me as a woman. Well, at least in the same way that she is turned on by a woman. It is kind of funny in that she likes women really for their naughty bits. So while I make a fairly decent looking woman, I do not have the womanly bits that she appreciates. She likes men for what men possess and women for what women possess but me dressing as a woman was difficult for her in a variety of ways. When I just did it on occasion at home, she was more inclined to say, whatever, have fun. When I began to go outside, she had a VERY difficult time with understanding it. And a VERY difficult time with being comfortable with going out with me. It wasn't like she said "oh hey, I am bisexual so yeah I love you dressing as a woman, it is in fact exactly what I have always wanted, a man dressing as a woman!" Which is what I think some picture it as. It is only through our non-stop desire to work it our through open, honest, constant communication that we have been able to survive.