When my wife and I were first married we dabbled with lingerie in the bedroom. My wearing nightgowns and hosiery was nothing more than playing with some sexual enhancement. Later, when both of us realized there was more than bedroom play progressing, my wife was turned off. There was a time in her life before I knew her that she is not proud of. She had told me of those exploits before we were married and I fully accepted her. I thought, if her issues were to resurface, we would work through them. That has been the case. She reluctantly accepted my cross dressing, but, expressed in a time of strained acceptance of it, that she wished she had not told me of her exploits. She said a non disclosure would have allowed her to end our marriage without revealing herself as hypocrite.
I think many women reject cross dressers because society would look at them as also being non-conforming. It's the old, "How can she stay married to a cross dresser? There must be something wrong with her too!"
Over the years my wife has become very tolerant and really very supportive of gays and lesbians and transsexuals. I don't think she has extended that level of tolerance to cross dressers. I think the reason for that is me! How the heck can an other wise 100% great male want to wear women's clothing? I cannot answer her question since I don't really know either.
