Wife won't go to counseling

[ReineD]

Near the end of my marriage, as it was collapsing, I chose to take some personal development courses and attend one on one counseling sessions. She refused. I learned about myself, what I could control, what it would take to make me happy. It's not for everybody, but it worked for me. It was my experience that when I worked on myself, got myself healthy (mentally & physically), then everything else fell into place. I changed, the people around me didn't, but I was better equipped to deal with them after. It's something to consider.

^This.

Go by yourself. You will learn the difference between her boundaries and yours, and find ways to comfortably crossdress without involving your wife.


Dinky, welcome to the forum. I agree that Glenda needs to respect his wife's grief, support her fully in her time of bereavement, and not throw the CDing in her face. At the same time it is possible to find compromises that will not impact Glenda's wife.