Wife won't go to counseling

[Amy Lynn3]

I'm no counselor by any stretch, but her actions could be....super imposed anger toward you. When an emotional event happens, such as her sisters death it took her emotional blanket away. In her mind you caused her to need the emotional (sister) blanket to begin with and now it is gone. The only thing your wife has to cling to now, is the person who caused the problem, is the problem, remains the problem. All her (wife) hurt, anger and grief are transferred to you every time she sees or hears you. Every time you mention counseling, crossdressing or any thing related to it brings the pot to a boil again.

The only advise is to ask yourself.......would my life be better without her or staying with her. If you stay you will need to be nothing but the MAN of the house and support her. I can't tell how long that your relationship will remain that way, because I do not have a crystal ball to look into her mind. The emotional damage has taken place already, and her mind set could never change, so all you can do is hang around and weather the storm or throw up your hands a leave.

I gave you my idea as to why she is acting the way she is, and it is just my two cents. I do know this: it is her problem to be dealt with, however, she sees fit to deal with it. You can't change her and as others have said....you are the only one who can change. How you react is your option, only.

For the life of me I can't understand why a woman would object so strongly and put themselves through such misery, just because a man wants to look pretty himself. As a cder myself, and I go through life being one who wears cloths to do manual labor in, but on the occasion I like to look and feel pretty. Do not every women on earth do the same thing ? They wear sweets, jeans and tee's, but when they have an occasion to look pretty they do. Do I have a problem with two standards...yes, I do !:2c: