Quote Originally Posted by kittypw GG View Post
Depression and personality disorders are separate issues. Gender identity can be a part of those disorders. for example borderline personality disorder can have a gender confusion component because of a lack of core personality. One does need to address these issues. The sad part is that sometimes other people can see the problem but the one afflicted. Getting someone to address their issues is almost impossible if they don't think they have any. If that person refuses to see the problem (like batty said, you can't fix something without acknowledging what is broken) then one has to make some tuff personal decisions on wether or not to stay and work it out. This is very a very tough decision to make because every relationship has an up side and we tend to cling to that up side as proof that things could work out.
Depression can exascerbate things on either side. It and personality disorders are all rather common and with their own sets of problems which would have a profound effect on all aspects of life, this included. Determining its effects on an individuals gender identity/expression is definately the realm of proper medical professionals, (I've been checked, I just have anxiety issues from repressing my dressing).
As for people failing to see problems, well as long as people refuse to doubt, refuse contrary evidence, refuse to acknowledge appropriate expertise and instead have blind faith in there own view/judgement then their is no hope of convincing them. I have literally placed incontrovertable proof once under the nose of someone and still had them ignore it, worse than the priest who would not look through Gallileo's telescope.
Still sometimes, in their own time, even these people can come round.

As for the pink fog, sure that is a definate difficulty. Like a starving man who binges till they are sick once good food is found we can be catapulted into a frenzy of over indulgence and it's not easy to restrain. Still with time and understanding a comfortable equilibrium might be reached.

As for dominance in the bedroom, I'm sure it's like any other activity there. Monotony is well, monotonous. Each persons desires and needs have to be considered, variety is important and communication is again paramount. It's just another bedroom thing like all the other possible bedroom things and again like the other issues in the relationship the same rules apply regardless.
Of course femininity need not neccessarily be submissive.