I guess, if we all thought about it, we WOULD tell our significant others very early in the relationship. But it wasn't about thinking. It was just complete & total fear. And once the fear really sets in thought is pretty much impossible.
We met, sparks flew, it was exciting. It was exactly what I wanted. And I couldn't even consider telling her at that time in 2001. I had spent 20 years hiding this from EVERYone. At all costs. Why should my significant other be any different?
I don't expect it to make SENSE, proper. But like I say, when you're acting out of fear...
TAC