It has been posted many times here that "clothes don't make the woman" (or the man for that matter.) I have to agree 100% with this. I am as much of a woman in a pair of old jeans and a grubby t-shirt, working under the hood of a car with my husband as I am in a cocktail dress, makeup to the nines, and stiletto heels that could kill a man with a well placed kick. My husband is still all-man in a dress, but there is a more visible cue that he is in touch with his female side when he is wearing a dress (does that make sense? it did in my head) I think what I am trying to convey here is that I haven't lost any respect for the PERSON I am married to when he is presenting differently than the persona that society has boxed him into. Clothes are really just an outward affectation, symbol, or method of covering one's nudity. Nothing more, nothing less.

And I know that many are uncomfortable with the assertation that they are just clothes. But they are just clothes. (as pertaining to this discussion)

However, it's the reasoning, behaviors, justifications, psychology, etc. that are part and parcel of crossdressing that, for me, are subject to this discussion. I think it's important to separate the two subjects. There are some who will find the idea of a dude in a dress insulting. I don't happen to agree with this line of thought, but I am not going to tell someone else what they are allowed to think and feel.

I personally don't think that being a crossdresser makes a person selfish, self-absorbed, thoughtless, or any other label we might place on someone who appears to be acting in a manner that some....GG's for example....may find insulting. I think that those who do act in such a fashion would probably be just as insulting in a pair of manly pants, cowboy boots, and wearing a Burt Reynolds mustache. I do feel that taking a man who is an a$$ in drab and putting him in drag, will simply leave you with an a$$ in drag.

It's not about crossdressing.

It's not about the clothes.

It's about who the person is at the core to begin with. JMHO.