That said, there are those who claim to be CDs who are insulting to everybody. I'm talking about the middle-aged bald biker with a huge mustache who puts on panties and stockings and starts firing off lewd instant messages to people in CD groups. That's simultaneously insulting to all that is masculine and feminine.
Stupidly naiive... in thinking that everyone is wanting to have lewd instant messages sent to them sure... but insulting to all that is masculine and feminine?

So for those who think some cding is insulting.. only those who get close to passing, who dress conservatively and who try and be just like 'women' are not insulting to women? Only those whose dressing is not sexual are ok?

That's the crossdressing communities equivalent of the burka. Really it is.

You'll only be acceptable and not an insult if you fit within these parameters of acceptability....

Well as a person whose nature has me burdened and blessed with a desire to express aspects of each gender I must have the right to express both of these seperatly and simultaneuosly if that is my desire. So any suggestion that I must hide my duel nature in either one gender or the other, and then only in a conservative and effective manner, is more than merely insulting.

Who could even define what it is to be a 'woman'. Is the lesbian friend of mine a 'woman'? She wears much more masculine clothes than I do. Her hair is more of a mens haircut than mine. She doesn't find anything insulting about peoples crossdressing.. is she any less a woman?

Do I have to take on the flaws of the genetic females in this society too? Should I binge drink in my teens? Should I shoplift? Should I say one thing to one friend only to say another to another? Should I secretly compete with all my friends? Should I be sexist? Should I try and tear down the self esteem of those I feel envious of? Should I make constant derogatory comments about groups of people to whom I do not belong?...... these are all things that are more common amongst women in my community than men. It's not true of all women I know of course, far from it, but then what exactly is?

No, it is not the CDing that is insulting.

All I can think of is that 99% of CDs here would love to make a dish for the person down the street, and be the sweetest girl ever. I don't really need to get into the tragic details of why that is hardly possible for most. But I'll have my friends over to grill and have a beer, and I'll visit friends and relatives in the hospital or nursing home whenever I can.
I thoroughly agree with you. And I also have met genetic women who would never be so compassionate or if they did it would only be for appearances. Other genetic women have been some of the most kind and good people I know, but then so have some of the men.

Kindness, empathy, decency, these are not gender-specific traits. Expression of emotion except under certain circumstances has culturally become so though.