I came out to my wife 3 years ago. Just 7 months ago she finally brought herself to look at pictures of me dressed. It was almost the final straw in our marriage.
It took her this long to look at this part of your life? Like what you wear matters more than who you are? She sounds very shallow and/or closed minded to me.

Why would I mind that she chose to stop off and donate the stuff to SA on our way home from dinner on my birthday? Anytime before 3 years ago those bags of clothes would've hung around in the attic endlessly while she decided what to do with them. Now, miraculously they find themselves on the fast track out of the house...lest anyone be tempted.Lest she give up the chance to control my crossdressing in any indirect way she can.
Ouch! What a selfish (censored)! When my wife found out I secretly wore her clothes, she didn't mind! She bought me my own things, but if I can wear it, I will. When we got married, I said what's mine is yours and what's yours is mine. She had no idea I was thinking about her clothes. I wish more of her clothes fit me. She cares about my happiness and gladly shares things.

It seems like your wife thinks you can QUIT crossdressing. I personally know that is NOT possible. I tried to quit when I married my current wife. My late wife knew and supported me, but I didn't think/know my current wife would. She loves me for who I am and wasn't even surprised when I came out.

Have you explained why you crossdress to your wife? Does she understand that you still love her and nothing has changed (aside from your wardrobe)? Hmm... I wonder if there is anything in the house SHE loves so much that you could HIDE from her to get even. Oh, that wouldn't be nice.

It is difficult to feel sorry for someone who refuses to discuss your problem and acts as selfish as your wife. I am not sure the problem is about you wearing HER clothes. If she would just talk to you, then you would know. She simply avoids rather than confronting your problems to work through them. My mother-in-law was freaked out when I wore a wig and clothes and looked like I was my wife's sister. People have asked us and we think it is funny. Too bad your wife doesn't.

I hope you can work things out or find a better wife, because I know you won't be able to quit crossdressing. You should be happy. Your wife needs to understand that. What size do you wear? We got clothes in many sizes from 8 to 22. I wear size 24. My wife was size 8 when we got married 12 years ago.

God, this story burns me and so do some of the replies.