I know that Salon is just too hip for words, but somebody explain to me: "What is bonobo sex?" I will claim age and befuddlement as an excuse...somehow; just forgot to renew my subscription to that mag, so I remain uncouth!
By the way, I think if your smart, you won't be bringing up this idea of Bisexuality to your GF or wife. If you have already told her about your femme self; she probably is already exploring that possibility, and is probably feeling a mite uncomfortable with it. (I know DD will read this and take exception...but you ain't the "norm" kid!) I would imagine you don't want to start a big discussion about her "being Bi." Not unless you want to sleep on The Couch this weekend.
Peace and Love, Joanie