HI Brittney, I know of the bar you were talking about. Bre visited it once when she first went out and was turned off by it. Too many working girls, no dance floor.
We usually go out to LA to have fun, they have a great TG bar there on Saturdays called Club Shine.
If we go out here in PHX, we'll go to a goth club, we've been to Tranzylvania, they were very accepting, and I do believe Bre was the only gurl we saw that night. It's on Friday nights at the Palazzo downtown. (I believe we are going out tonight in fact.) If you ever want to meet up let us know, if we're home, we're always up to going out! :D
About the crazies, I think you'd find them in any metro area, though there are some areas that have a higher concentration.