Not a Good Night Out

[Raquel June]

Well, that sounds like it was an exciting night

All the shady bars I've been to check your purse on the way in. If I went to that place, I'd get one of those garter-like thigh holsters.

And I certainly agree with everybody else saying you should move. I just moved because my car got broken into twice at my last place. If Friday Night Fights meant going out to the parking lot and watching a brawl, I would've moved sooner.

Check out this group: http://www.tgharmony.com/ .

I don't live in your area, so I can't endorse this organization, but from its website it looks like a much healthier place to start.

The OP sounds like more of a party girl -- she likes going out to clubs, having fun, drinking, and potentially hooking up. I doubt a TG support group that meets in a church is something she'll see as a viable alternative to a bar.

...We would sit in a VW bus,and get ripped. We would wear strange clothing, and talk about everything imaginable. Naturally, there were some hallucinations, but we were among friends, after all. :drink:

Oh, but that might be her kind of fun

HI Brittney, I know of the bar you were talking about. Bre visited it once when she first went out and was turned off by it. Too many working girls, no dance floor.

Eek! A bar full of hookers and tranny-chasers is one thing, but no dance floor?

I am not from Pheonix, but I have done research on the topic and it is widespread and has the same results everywhere. The gay lifestyle and gay bars are notorious for having high rates of addiction. This is not news to you if you are in your 20's.

Huh? You can't just go grouping all gay bars together anymore than you can group all straight bars together. I've been to many gay bars and many straight bars, many of which were even in the bad part of town, and the honest truth is that I've always found less potential addicts and more people capable of carrying on an intelligent conversation at the gay ones. I've been to sports bars (in drab) in seedy neighborhoods with parking lots full of rusted out pickups with NASCAR bumper stickers that you would assume would be full of a-hole rednecks, when in actuality it was a great, friendly crowd. I've been to up-scale bars that were full of jerks and actually did have people looking for drugs. It has nothing to do with the gayness or straightness of a club.

The problems my generation had (I'm 37) were entirely different, but notsomuch that we didn't witness the arrival of the drugs. Certainly these drugs were around prior to my adulthood, but it was very limited. To even hear the word Cocaine was almost foreign. Nobody I knew had even seen it. It wasn't until I was in my 20's that I say it myself. Methamphetamine wasn't even in our imaginations.

Are you kidding? So you were in your 20's in the 90's. Well, the late 80's and early 90's was pretty much the peak of recreational cocaine use, and that's when everybody was bombarded by the War on Drugs and constantly told how horrible crack was and that you'd be an instant addict the second you took a hit. Even if you lived a sheltered life, it's ridiculous to say that the word cocaine was almost foreign. You couldn't turn on the TV without seeing Nancy Reagan talk about drugs. Unless you only watched Alf and The Golden Girls you'd have seen that most episodes of Miami Vice or TJ Hooker or Moonlighting or Hunter or Remington Steele were about drugs, and drugs even fit into a lot of Knight Rider and MacGuyver and A-Team plots. Kids thought drugs were awesome.

The truth is that these days they can barely give away cocaine. An 8-ball of coke is less than half what it was in the 80's, and nobody thinks it's cool anymore.

Now, meth is a different story, but that's much more prevalent with white trash (or just trash in general) than with the gay community. Meth makes you progress from paranoia to outright crazy pretty quickly, but more importantly it makes you smell bad and act kinda twitchy, which really isn't something that goes over in gay bars.

Now we know better, but the younger generations are exposed to it all at such young ages that it is almost comfortable for them to experiment at very young ages. Certainly we experimented as well, but not with anything like Crack or Meth and anything else was outrageously expensive. Even a 1/4 of weed cost 120 bucks back then, now it's almost free. These days with Crack and Meth, the first hit IS FREE because it's the first one that gets you.

I think you were just being overcharged for weed because you were in highschool