Thank you all for your replies! They have been very insightful, and I don't disagree with anything anyone said.
For the record, I am a strong believer that when this issue is present in a relationship, it should be brought to the table as quickly as feasibly possible, because serious trust issues get involved otherwise.
I sympathize with the story of a cder feeling wholly rejected when (after doing his part to earn her trust) is faced with the ultimatum 'the clothes or me'. If someone thinks I shouldn't, I'd like to hear their reasons though.
