I know the stoic role well, hun! That's what's-his-name's role every day. The practical one...the sensible one...the one with the answers when others are freaked out or panicing...the one who could give direction to those who had lost theirs. And like NickyB says, I actually am proud of that role.
But yes, I sometimes need someone else to lean on occasionally, too. And guess what, someone like that, from among all those that have leaned on me, usually steps forward to be a rock for me. They do it out of love, out of gratitude, out of respect for the person that I was for them. We all have this capability. It's just that most ppl will avoid being that rock for someone else if they possibly can.
You know your friends and family. Choose the one you know the best, the one that is most like you... Strong souls are recognizable to each other. Good hearts shine out in an obvious way. You can't miss' em.
And, on your own behalf, stay strong. "There is no crying in baseball", but there's plenty of crying in real life...and it's okay to let it show now and again...the tears of a strong person are influential and strength giving to others.
