Portiahoney and Louise Redhead: It wouldn't bother you if your wife went to a girlfriend or her sister and talked about her feelings about your crossdressing? Are you out or closeted? If my wife went out and talked to someone else about our relationship and my crossdressing, wouldn't she be outing me? I just think that once a secret is told to a third party, it isn't a secret anymore. Maybe you have your SO's permission to talk to a third party or you have given her your permission but when you do that I just think that your secret is out.
I am sorry to say that I don't have a friend that I could talk about my crossdressing with. The only friend that I have is my wife. Sometimes I wish that we had a 3rd party who we could both go to, together, but right now we only have one another. I could talk to other crossdressers as we are right now but no two of us are in exactly the same situation and place. We can only tell one another what has worked and what has not or my wife "understands" me or doesn't.
I agree with everyone who commends a wife for wanting to talk about the crossdressing and wanting to try to understand it and try to make the marriage work despite the surprise third person in the relationship. I was just trying to say, "be careful about sharing intimate secrets with a friend" because you need to be very sure of the type of friendship you think you have.
I appreciate your disagreement; I don't want to sound like I know everything because I don't and I am just trying to learn more about myself and relationships myself.
Love, Annie
