Crossdressing is NOT an imperfection, nor is it anything to be ashamed of. It also does not define you. It is only one of many other aspects of the wonderful person that you are.Originally Posted by lisa_vin
In my opinion, a spouse's ability to accept others for who they are is intrinsic. It has less to do with their partner's characteristics and whether or not they fit into what is perceived to be "normal" than having an extremely narrow-minded and self-centered view of the world. No doubt your wife is just as priggish when placing judgments on other people, and she will ultimately only harm herself as she is narrowing her own experiences. I was also married to someone for nearly 30 years who could not accept that I had different views than his own, and in his eyes I was wrong and also needed to be "fixed".
I bought into this for many years until I became healthy enough to know that I deserved better. I know now that I deserve to be loved simply for who I am.
I sincerely hope your separation process will continue to be amicable. In my experience, this is very rare.
